Mr. & Mrs.

Today at Terran's school, they apparently talked about Mr. & Mrs.
So Terran told me he learned that Mrs. A has a Mr. A. And Mrs. Ryan has a Mr. Ryan. And Mrs. Hopson has a Mr. Hopson.

Then confused, he asked me: "We are all Chows but why are you Junko Huang?"

So I said: "Well, not everyone in the family has to have the same last name. I'm just not a Chow, but I'm still your mom."

Then he asked: "Do you love your husband?"

I chuckled and said "Yes, I love my husband."

And he walked away.

Based on his questions, I felt a little selfish. At the time when we got married and I made the decision to keep my last name (with the agreement from my husband), I never thought about what my future child would think. And it was a little painful that, perhaps, he thought his parents are not Mr. & Mrs. Chow because she doesn't love her husband, his dad. This is a complicated yet legitimate concern of a 5 year old boy. I'm sorry baby, I didn't mean to confuse you.