There's a big dilemma about whether I should go back to work or not. Patrick doesn't seem to really mind either way so I am just trying to figure this out on my own. Previously being pretty career minded, I predicted that I would be anxious to get back to work after 3 months of baby talk. I thought that I would just find any daycare, good or not, since Terran wouldn't understand a thing anyway. I wanted to work full time, and be a part-time mom. Now it's going on 5 months and I'm sure I can't leave Terran by himself in strangers' arms.
But looking back, I spent so much time in developing myself for my career. I used to like what I did, and usually had pride in my work. There is also some negativity towards stay-at-home moms in this highly capitalistic country. Am I going to allow myself to become the image of domesticity rather than that of modernity? And most importantly, what would be the best for Terran? Will my choice impact his development????
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How about finding a part-time job or freelance job until Terran goes to pre-school? But I know you are facing an entirely new working environment and job market, so it may be difficult to do that. If time and money is not a problem, then you can search through to find the new and good daycare before bringing Terran to a stranger.
How about this? Since you are going to be at home being a full-time mom. Take this as a opportunity to take all your license exam, so when you send Terran to the daycare a year or two later, you will come back out with a strong title and allow you to further advance in your career.
I hate to generalize -actually, that's not true, I love generalizing- but most of the 'well adjusted' people I know come from families where at least one parent had a constant presence. Most dual income families are that way out of economic neccessity. If you're capable of sustaining your desired lifestyle with one income, why not stay at home? Are you afraid that your life will be less fulfilling without a professional career? The stigma society places on stay-at-home moms is a not an issue. It's an indefensible reason for any action. Then again, you are a VERY competent architect with a big bright future. It IS a difficult decision. Have you considered talking to your parents about it? It's probably something they've delt with in your upbringing. I'm sure you'll make the right decision and be great at whatever you choose to do.
Thanks for your opinion. I talked to both my parents who raised me to be very career/academic-minded. I was blown out of my mind when my dad was surprised to hear my interest in going back to work. Now, he seems to be suggesting self-employment to be able to balance work and mom. If I have any bright ideas for what to do with myself, I will let you know. In the mean time, I should get going with the exams.
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